Give to Get

The #1 way to get something you want is to give.

What is something you want to get, to have, or to experience?

Don’t edit yourself.

When we frame something we long for as wanting, it often triggers shame, guilt, or judgment.

So… what do you want?

Write it down.

Now ask yourself:
What could I do — for someone else, for myself or for the world that aligns with that desire.

It can be an action as small as a quiet intention.

Medium, like planting some flowers for your neighbor, visiting a gallery or site you where you want to show your work or perform, or leaving a testimonial for a writer you admire.

Or go big: buy tickets to a peer's show and stay after to connect, volunteer at a charity you hope to speak at, or recommend someone else for an opportunity you know they’d be perfect for.

I’m cooking up a big "give."

I want to speak in front of more people.

While I wait for an opportunities, I’m creating one I don't have to wait for.

But it's not for me.

I am going to produce an event for other women I want to lift up as speakers.


It’s a relatively big give.

But I'm so committed to it, because I’m inviting others in!

I get to connect deeply with women I admire and create an experience I long to have with them.

I don't want anything from them.

That's important.

I'm not creating this experience to get something.  That might happen, but I can't control that outcome.

What I can control is what I create, how I create and why I create - and it's not to get.

That’s how we create new possibilities in the long run.

Be generous with your acknowledgments.

With your curiosity.

With your ideas, your stories, your knowledge.

Give of yourself — to peers, to new connections, even to strangers whose work you love.

“What can I do to support you right now?” is a worthy question.

Because here’s the truth:
It’s hard to keep grinding if you believe you’re on your own.

But generosity? It connects instantly.

It feels good when it comes from the heart.

And it nearly always delivers something back — even years later.

If we want to sustain creative lives — if we want to live in the spaces and places that light us up — we have to lead with our hearts.

And yes, we really do need each other’s wisdom, experience, and contacts.

Let’s be real: we need more people, not fewer. So we all rise together.